According to a study published in the “Child Abuse and Neglect” journal, adults who experienced childhood maltreatment are more likely to experience psychological distress and physical health problems in their late 20s and early 30s.
One reason for this vulnerability is that maltreatment victims often internalize the hurtful things their parents said to them. As adults, they may still remember and react to those comments in ways that can be damaging.
Here are some of the most common hurtful things parents say to their kids that adults still remember:
“You’re not smart enough.”
“You’re not pretty enough.”
“You’re not strong enough.”
“You’re going to be a failure.”
“I’m not going to be able to take care of you.”
“I don’t want you.”
“I don’t love you.”
“You’re a waste of space.”
“You’re a burden.”
“You’re a mistake.”
“You’re not special.”
“You’re not loved.”
“You’re not worth anything.”
“You’re nothing.”
“You’re worthless.”
“You’re ugly.”
“You’re stupid.”
“You’re going to be a disappointment.”
“You’re not going to make it.”
“You’re not good enough.”
These are just a few examples of the hurtful things parents say to their kids that adults still remember. There are many other hurtful things that parents can say to their kids that can have lasting effects. If you are a parent and you are finding it difficult to love and care for your child, it might be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor about how to improve your relationship.
