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What We Should Tell Our College Students, instead of “Toughen Up”

In a piece for The Washington Post, Ferentz Lafargue, the director for the Davis Center which explores positive social change at Williams College in Massachusetts, pushes back against the mentality that protecting college students from hate speech and discrimination “coddles them.”

Lafargue’s comments come on the heels of two cancelled speakers on the campus that had unpopular views. The first, conservative Suzanne Venker who has voiced her opinion that feminism has failed, and the second John Derbyshire, a mathematician who once wrote for the National Review until his writing revealed him to have racist views. Venker’s appearance was cancelled following student backlash and Derbyshire’s was cancelled by the university president himself.

Lafargue applauds the university’s actions in both cases. He counters that allowing such speakers at the expense of college students does not prepare them for the real world. It implies that wanting to change those attitudes is wrong.

In the piece, Lafargue writes:

The real culprits — on campuses and in the real world — are the persistent effects of homophobia, income inequality, misogyny, poverty, racism, sexism, white supremacy and xenophobia. When students refuse to accept discrimination on college campuses, they’re learning important lessons about how to fight it everywhere.

Larfargue’s spot-on analysis got me thinking a little more about the role of college campuses in changing the future “real world” that exists after students earn their degrees. Instead of telling these students to toughen up, perhaps we should tell them these things instead:

Your words matter.

Whether you are speaking out against injustice, or belittling a peer, what you say makes an impact on the larger world. This goes for verbal words that come directly out of your mouth and those that are written – in emails, in texts, on social media, and more. Use those words to lift others up and to further causes that benefit society and beyond. You do not need to tolerate the words of another that offend you – ever. Know who you are and speak those truths into existence.

You don’t deserve discrimination.

Hate, intolerance and judgement are not just acceptable parts of life. They are wrong, plain and simple. Just because they exist, and have since the dawn of time, does not make them a part of your life that you must simply deal with and move past. You cannot change the way a particular person thinks or acts but always recognize that the fault is with them, not you. It’s not your job to adjust to a world that discriminates you unfairly, nor is it ever your doing.

Progress is hard – but worth it.

The road to positive change is full of obstacles. Sometimes working towards that change is downright disheartening. This doesn’t mean to just accept the status quo. It means to work even harder to push back against the negative viewpoints and deep-rooted belief systems that are holding that progress back. It’s not an easy task to steer a ship a new direction, especially one that goes against the current, but it’s necessary to get to a new place. Never stop fighting the good fight. Eventually, with persistence and optimism, you will win.

Youth is not a disadvantage.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you that your lack of years lessens your importance. Your viewpoint matters just as much, if not more, than those whose opinions are more about hardened lines than true progress. Use your voice and all of that youthful passion to blaze new trails. Your inexperience in the ways of the world makes you an asset to it because your choices are based less on outside influence.

You are safe here.

At least while you are on this campus, and a student at this school, we will have your best interest at heart. Nowhere in our university mission does it say that we strive to toughen you up for the real world by allowing you to be attacked, verbally or otherwise. You matter to us. You are protected. You are a priority.

 

We can’t coddle our college students by insisting they demand fairness. Let’s stand behind them as they continue the good work to progress past discrimination and backward thinking. Let’s believe together that the next iteration of the real world ushered in by our best and brightest will be an even better one than what we see today.

Off Campus Student: Tips to Handle Life in a New City

**The Edvocate is pleased to publish guest posts as way to fuel important conversations surrounding P-20 education in America. The opinions contained within guest posts are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the official opinion of The Edvocate or Dr. Matthew Lynch.**

A guest post by Brooke Chaplan

Living off-campus provides several challenges for students, but can come with a host of benefits that can make your college life more enjoyable and fulfilling. If you’re living in a new city, all the challenges you face may seem especially daunting at first. Luckily, with the right attitude and by properly planning for emergencies, you can have a rewarding off-campus experience. Consider these suggestions to make that transition easier, cheaper and safer.

Renters Insurance
For a few dollars per month, you can insure your property against fire or theft. Often, a rental policy will protect items that you take outside of your apartment like your laptop or bicycle. It can also help to protect you against liability. This is great if your apartment isn’t in a great neighborhood and you can’t be protected by dorm rules and regulations.

Car Insurance
If you own a car, try to get more than the minimum coverage. A serious accident could financially devastate you for years. You should also be prepared with knowledge on defensive driving and what to do if you are in a car accident. In case you are in a serious accident, you should hire a lawyer. They generally offer free consultations, and most won’t take your case unless they know they can win.

Live Below Your Means
Don’t spring for that extra room when you are living by yourself. Find an apartment in a safe location, but avoid pushing your budget to the limit. You’ll be surprised how much the small expenses really begin to add up. It’s not just food and gas you’ll have to worry about, but you’ll need money to replace air filters, cleaning supplies, and other maintenance items.

Learn the Public Transit System
Even if you have a car, the public transit system is your friend. If you’re out late at a bar, you don’t want to get caught driving home drunk. A simple bus ride only costs a little, but it can get you home safely. Find out about any programs that will drive you and your car home from a bar for free. These programs usually exist in big cities and can also be great for commuting to school and avoiding expensive gas prices.

Get Organized
Use online versions of word processing programs when possible. When you’re living in a new city, you never know where you’re going to need to access that crucial final essay for one of your classes. This also protects you in the event that your computer is lost or stolen. Online word processors provide all the functionality you’ll need for most classes and will back up your files on the cloud.

Living in a new city is an exciting experience but you need to be prepared. Have an exit strategy in place, and talk with your parents to see if there is any option to help you get home quickly if it’s needed.

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Brooke Chaplan is a freelance writer and blogger. She lives and works out of her home in Los Lunas, New Mexico. She loves the outdoors and spends most her time hiking, biking and gardening. For more information contact Brooke via Twitter @BrookeChaplan.