20 Ways to Get Learners Not to Fight with Their Peers

Are you looking for strategies to help students not to fight with peers? If so, keep reading.

1. Teach the student to think before acting (e.g., they should ask themselves, “What is happening?” “What am I doing?” “What should I do?” “What will be best for me?”).

2. Get the student to practice appropriate oral exchanges that should be made when typical physical exchanges take place (e.g., “Excuse me.” “I’m sorry.” etc.).

3. Let the student voice their opinion in situations to avoid becoming angry or upset.

4. Converse with the student about ways of handling conflict situations successfully (e.g., walk away from a situation, change to another learning experience, ask for help, etc.).

5. Stop annoying or anxiety-producing situations from happening (e.g., give the student tasks only on their capacity and ability level, give the student only the number of tasks that they can tolerate in one sitting, lessen social interactions that encourage the student to become physically aggressive, etc.).

6. Show the student that it is natural for conflict situations to happen. What is essential is how they react to the situation.

7. Connect with parents (e.g., notes home, phone calls, etc.) to disseminate information about the student’s progress. The parents may reinforce the student at home for respecting the rules of physical proximity at school.

8. Draft an agreement with the student stipulating what behavior is required (e.g., respecting the norms of physical proximity) and which reinforcement will be implemented when the agreement has been met.

9. Take the student away from the learning experience until they can demonstrate appropriate behavior and self-control.

10. Praise the student for demonstrating appropriate behavior based on the duration of time the student can be successful. As the student shows success, slowly increase the duration of time required for reinforcement.

11. Praise those students in the classroom who demonstrate appropriate behavior when interacting with other students.

12. Create classroom rules: • Complete every assignment. • Remain in your seat. • Finish tasks. • Meet task expectations. • Raise your hand. Examine rules often. Praise students for following the rules.

13. Talk with the student to explain(a) what the student is doing wrong (e.g., scratching, hitting, pulling hair, etc.) and (b) what the student should be doing (e.g., following the rules, interacting in appropriate ways, dealing with anger and frustration in appropriate ways, etc.).

14. Praise the student for demonstrating appropriate behavior: (a) give the student a concrete reward (e.g., privileges such as leading the line, handing out learning materials, 10 minutes of free time, etc.) or (b) give the student an informal reward (e.g., praise, handshake, smile, etc.).

15. Assess the appropriateness of the task to ascertain (a) if the task is too easy, (b) if the task is too complicated, and (c) if the duration of time scheduled to finish the task is sufficient.

16. On occasions where the student has responded improperly to a conflict situation, take time to explore with them appropriate solutions that could have been used in dealing with the problem.

17. Consider using a classroom management app. Click here to view a list of apps that we recommend.

18. Consider using an adaptive behavior management app. Click here to view a list of apps that we recommend.

19. Consider using Alexa to help the student learn to behave appropriately. Click here to read an article that we wrote on the subject.

20. Click here to learn about six bonus strategies for challenging problem behaviors and mastering classroom management.

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